Life is really incredibly easy. Notice something in your life that you don’t like, decide what you would like instead, bring it into being. Job done. Here endeth the blog… or maybe not.
It should be that simple so why and how does it get so complicated? I would like to propose that it is down to just one thing — the incessant “blah, blah, blah” that runs through our minds. I don’t know what your version of that will be. Maybe something like the “I don’t know how to” blah, the “I’m not ready for” blah, the “I don’t deserve it” blah or the “I have to work hard to achieve it” blah. So what’s your preferred blah tipple?
Our blah, blah, blah is really a safety mechanism to protect us from hurt and disappointment. Once upon a time we had a dream. We knew the truth of that dream. We knew it was our destiny. Then we made the mistake of sharing it with someone we looked up to — perhaps a parent, teacher or sibling. What we didn’t realise was that they also once had a dream. That was until they opened up to someone who had crushed it unintentionally. You see, everyone has big dreams but those well-meaning people we consulted wanted to save us from any pain and suffering and so they advised us to play it small and keep it safe. It’s a perpetual pattern that has been handed down from generation to generation. Will you break the cycle?
The truth is that the blah, blah, blah doesn’t even belong to you. It’s the voice of the person you turned to for support who mistakenly believed you valued security above excitement, passion and inspiration. It’s a myth we have all bought into. It’s time to break through that belief once and for all.
So how do we do that? Would you believe it is incredibly simple? Of course…remember… life is easy! Instead of simply listening to the voice of blah, we can talk to it. We aren’t going to argue with it, we aren’t going to fight it, we aren’t going to give into it. We are going to talk man to man or rather voice to voice.
So what has your blah being trying to tell you? Listen beneath the actual words. We are going to dive deep and find the real message. “I’m not ready” could be more “I am scared of success”. “I don’t know how” could be “I’m afraid that I won’t be able to handle it”. “I have to work hard” could be “I want to feel as though I belong”. Your blah voice will be ready to speak, you just need to be ready to hear.
Once you get the message, now the real work begins. But don’t worry because it’s easy-peasy-lemon-squeezy! Your job is to talk back gently, kindly,considerately, encouragingly! Imagine a small child was telling you those fears, how would you respond? How would you reassure them? Reassure your blah that you’ve got it covered.
Why would you want to do this? Because that dream you held once upon a time (before the well-meaners tried to save you heartache) still lives on. It burns brightly, calling your name. The voice of your dream has always been there, just drowned out by the blah, blah, blah. So as you silence the blah with kindness, you get to hear the dream’s voice at last. You will know it by its familiarity, its warmth, its boldness and it’s inspiration. Congratulations and welcome home!